One of my coaching clients had a very long term relationship with his boss. The boss had mentored this employee and taken him to levels he could not have dreamt of. Let’s call the employee Jay and the boss Roy. Jay adored and respected Roy and was deeply indebted. However, over a key strategic decision Jay disagreed with Roy, was very hurt and was ready to quit. Jay was an extremely high performing individual.\u00a0It is obvious to note that these underlying issues were leading to a strained relationship and a lesser than optimum performance at work. Although on the surface there was display of admiration.<\/p>\n

I was brought in as an Executive Coaching for Remedial Coaching. Jay was being perceived as extremely arrogant and had developed quite an attitude where he looked down upon all his team members.<\/p>\n

It took Jay four coaching sessions for the real issue to surface ( the first 3 sessions were all praise for the boss ).<\/p>\n

The fourth session involved Jay acknowledging the anger he felt towards Roy. The anger was his way to get Roy’s attention. Roy, meanwhile was completely unaware of this. Jay refused to let go of the anger. It was his and it gave him a feeling of control and power. It’s like holding a loaded gun, without realizing that we don’t really know how to set it off and what the consequences of it could be. Chances of it hurting us are very high. Jay was willing to take that risk but was not ready to discuss this openly with Roy.<\/p>\n

The thing about anger is, it can cloud your judgement. It does not make you feel good. It is mostly a bottled up negative emotion of your disagreement with something you value or believe in strongly.<\/p>\n

Our thoughts and emotions are interconnected. We can let go of negative thoughts only after the emotions have been completely let go and the reverse also has a part to play. There are exercises which we are trained to do as a Coach that help release the debilitating emotion ( anger in this case) and hence improving the quality of your thoughts and your happiness quotient. This further leads to better results at work.<\/p>\n

I am an ICF Executive Coach. Please reach out to me at bhavnadalal@gmail.com<\/a> for a complimentary session and to know more about how Coaching works in a corporate setup.<\/strong><\/h2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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